Very often, when we meet and interact with people, somewhere in our minds we rate them on a maturity level scale. This scale is of course relative. Based on where we ourselves lie on that scale. But take a minute and try to define what is maturity? And you may find it difficult to describe what maturity is. When I picked up this book Maturity by Osho at Goa airport some days back, I was probably trying to find an answer to the same question. ‘What is maturity?’. Can you really measure it on a scale? And say one person is more mature than the other.
I have always found Osho’s explanations very intriguing. And like his view on every topic, he describes maturity also from an eastern vs western point of view. And finally comes to Budhha and how he was the most mature person to have graced this planet. The book Maturity starts by explaining the difference between growing old and growing. And then moves on to how a mature person accepts everything that happens to him with equanimity. The things happening in this world do not impact a mature person at the core. As he realizes that these things are happening only at the surface and the core is incorruptible.
Book Maturity explains the ‘Seven-year cycle’ that we all go through. I think this was my biggest take away from this book. Something that I had never heard/read earlier. It says every 7 years our psychology changes and so do our psychological needs. Further, the book talks about mature relationships. It says most relationships fail either because people become too dependent on each other or they remain totally independent of each other. Both these situations are not conducive for nurturing a relationship. In the first case you suffocate each other and in the second one, there is no need for the other person. A mature relationship is balanced by the right quantity of interdependence.
A quote that I completely endorse ‘Whenever you enjoy something, you are in tune with yourself and you are in tune with the Universe because your center is the center of all… so do only that you enjoy, otherwise stop’. Probably its time for me to follow this too…
Buy this book – Maturity The Responsibility of Being Oneself by Osho (Osho Insights for a New Way of Living) at Amazon India.